How to be a Proverbs 31 Woman

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Have you ever met a woman that just seems to have it all together? She has a happy marriage, she is a wonderful wife, she has a successful career, her kids are well behaved, she does volunteer work in the community, she cooks dinner every night, her home is spotless, and she looks her best every day. tea-party-1001654_1280Maybe you might know one of those women-maybe you work with her or she’s a friend of the family or you know her from church. She’s the one that asks you how your day is and genuinely seems to care. She has a glow about her. She beams with joy each and every day. When she smiles you want to smile. She’s captivating. The women that I have met that resemble this persona all have one thing in common. They all remind me of a woman that I have read about time and time again. They are all the same woman in fact: the Proverbs 31 woman.

Being a Proverbs 31 woman has been an aspiration of mine since I got married. I’ve actually always wanted to be a Proverbs 31 woman but now that I have “wife” under my title, it seems that aligning my marriage and my spirit with this chapter is even more desired. So a little over a year ago, after the honeymoon was over (literally after the honeymoon was over…. not the pun), I sat down with my Bible and flipped it open to Proverbs 31. I skimmed over it and then quickly began to copy verses 10-31 down in my journal. FullSizeRender.jpg “Here we go…. Proverbs 31 woman. Yep! Here we go.” After writing them down, I began to thoroughly read these verses and then tried to think of ways that I could align my life with them. I mean, surely I already do some of these thing, right? The more I read the more I started to feel a bit overwhelmed. “Wow, that’s a lot of stuff God,” I kept thinking to myself. “How am supposed to do all of this?” Well, after a ton of reading and continuous prayer on each verse, I’ve found that the Proverbs 31 woman possesses certain virtues in her life. By living her life according to these virtues in Christ, the spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman is born. By relentlessly living her life for Jesus, the rest of her life fell into place perfectly.

Seek God’s kingdom and all the other things you need will be given to you.” Luke 12:31

I really enjoy reading Proverbs 31 in the Message Bible. That’s my “Bible study go-to” anytime I need a little translation or need to find some relation in the content. Below are some of my favorite verses in chapter 31:

  • “A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.
  • Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has a reason to regret it.
  • Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.
  • She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises.
  • She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day.
  • First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
  • She senses the worth of work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
  • She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor.
  • Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
  • When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.
  • Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.”3

While I am still learning and praying about this Proverbs 31 woman that I admire so much, I have found that the goal isn’t as far away as I had first thought. I have realized that each virtue of this woman is a result of one common factor: her love for Jesus. She wants to live her life glorifying God in everything she does. She wants to please God in every aspect of her life so she makes Godly choices throughout her day.

If you want to be a Proverbs 31 woman but feel a little intimidated, just know that it all stems from one component: loving your Savior. Oh, you already do that? Well look! You’re already becoming her! God has been showing me more and more that just by trying to please him in our actions, we are already becoming this woman that we yearn to be. Yeah, maybe she’s a bit more diligent than we are, but we’re on the right path. 2

Yeah, I’m sure this woman has bad days and I’m sure she cries. Luke 6 says, “You’re blessed when your tears flow freely. Joy comes in the morning!” These days don’t keep her from loving God. They probably bring her even closer to Him.

There are so many other things we can work on, study, and pray about when it comes to our relationship with Christ. So many pieces of ourselves that need to be chipped away so that we can be that image of Christ. Sometimes it may seem like the characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman are so far from our reach and that we will have to discipline ourselves to commit to them each day. It’s okay to feel that way. Our hearts are already starting off in the right place because we love Jesus. I’m not worried because I know that God while walk with me through this journey. He will shape me. He will chip away pieces of me that are not a resemblance of Him. With His help, I know I can live like this woman that I’ve wanted to be for so long. And you can too! I mean, we do have a pretty remarkable leader. He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords and we get to spend as much time as we want with Him! That’s truly amazing if you think about it. The creator of all things- yeah, I talk to Him every day. He loves me. I mean, that’s enough reason in itself for me to want to live a Proverbs 31 life.


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